Getting To Happy by Dr. Lisa Romain

By Lisa A. Romain, Ph.D.

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.” Philippians 4:11

I never knew what HAPPINESS was until I no longer had it. Then I often thought, “When was the last time I remember being excited about something? What was I thinking? What was I doing? Who was I with and what were the circumstances that made me believe that I was HAPPY?”

I tried to imagine my emotional and physiological states. What was going through my mind, and what brought my body such great pleasure? There were times when my thoughts took me to places unimaginable to the human mind, and my body experienced sensations that I could never dream of. I was left feeling like I was chasing something that I would never get back. Life was a journey of temporary satisfactions and big holes of emptiness. Life was “going through the motions.”

After a while, I started to think: How can I maintain overall satisfaction and live a life free of bondage. As I pondered these thoughts, I began to question what is HAPPINESS.

HAPPINESS is about living your life. It’s a state of being, not based on emotions. HAPPINESS involves asking yourself questions like, “Who am I” and “What is my purpose on earth?” It’s learning to be content no matter what state you are in. I have succumbed to thinking that HAPPINESS is what you make it–always is and always will be.

HAPPINESS is a state of mind. Decide to “just be HAPPY” without the craziness. Don’t be defined by possessions or surrender to people’s expectations. Aspire to just “do you.” How do you get to HAPPY? Choose to be HAPPY and surround yourself with like-minded people. Go to places that bring you joy and ignite the kid in you. Do things and engage in activities that will make you laugh.
HAPPINESS is a choice and can be described by this acrostic:

Getting to HAPPY is an expected “hope,” wanting or expecting something. HAPPY is “asking” for what you want and taking responsibility for getting your needs met. Being HAPPY is having a “passion” for life, being excited about today, learning from your past and moving into your future. HAPPINESS is being content in your current situation and having a “peace” that surpasses all understanding. To be HAPPY is a sense of satisfaction that something is right, a “yearning” for something more. Getting to HAPPY and maintaining happiness is achievable. Live in the moment. Live life on purpose. Accept each moment for what it is. Reflect on learning moments and contemplate changes in order to live life to the fullest. It’s yours. Own it. Be satisfied with you, because you own you! Move forward and get to HAPPY.

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” Frederick Keonig

Author’s Information:
Dr. Romain is a full-time Professor and Counselor at Palomar Community College. She teaches Counseling, Psychology and Alcohol and Other Drug Studies courses and currently serves as the Career Center Director. She also teaches Human Services and Business courses at the University of Phoenix. She is an organizational psychologist, career consultant and provides training and development and executive coaching services.

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